1. You either grow apart or together.
2. Smile. Lots. If not for yourself, for them.
3. A good sense of humour is a powerful characteristic. A great sense of humour is a powerful aphrodisiac.4. Love begins with the soul through the eyes. Look each other in the eyes.
5. Be honest with yourself first and then share that honesty with them.
6. Truthfully, there is no such thing as “yours” or “mine,” there is only ours.
7. At each moment there’s an energy exchange occurring. A person is either consuming another’s energy like an insatiable black hole, or, a person is supplying energy like an abundant sun. Recognise which you have been doing.
8. Physical distance often mimics the distance of our mind or hearts on that instance. If you are fortunate enough to be in the same room as your partner, use plenty of hugs and/or kisses to bridge the gap between one another.
9. You will be hurt – that’s inevitable – but it’s what you do with the pain that counts. Will you let it fester and turn into anger or loathing, or will you transmute it into love and nurturing so that the pain does not occur again?
10. You can’t read minds. Do not assume you know exactly what they meant.
11. Say it. Even if your hands tremble, even if your heart beats louder than your mouth speaks, even if you are scared, furthermore, especially when you’re scared! Say it.
12. You are learning to live with another person; to exist with another takes time. Be patient, you will both get used to sharing yourselves with one another.
13. You are different people. It is only natural that you dislike certain things about one another, that’s fine, don’t focus on the negatives. Focus on which traits made you love in the first place and be reminded of why it is you care for that person.
14. Love is not always mad and passionate, nor is it always mundane and mediocre. Sometimes love is simply knowing and showing you want no one else.
15. Although I had learnt these things through loving you, I know now that some of these words can help in any of our relationships; romantic or otherwise, family and friends alike.
Piscatella’s backstory in Orange is The New Black wasn’t included to make you sympathize with him. It was a reference to a real life event. On June 23, 2012, four correction officers locked black prisoner Darren Rainey in a shower and raised the temperature to 180 degrees. He kicked the door and begged to be let out, and they laughed and asked if it was warm enough. They left him in there for two hours. When he was pulled out, his internal body temperature was too hot to register with a thermometer. His skin was peeling off. Burns covered 90% of his body. Despite all of this, the official statement was that cause of death was “undetermined” and on March 17, 2017 it was announced that the four COs involved will not face any charges.
His name was Darren Rainey. Say his name. Remember his name.
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I got my wedding dress and veil yesterday and my consultant was a trans girl who was an actual angel and she was telling me how some girls are skeptical to undress in front of her and let her measure them or their finances get awkward and it just breaks my heart that people are STILL in 2018 so ignorant and rude to people out of some ridiculous fear. she found the perfect dress for me and made me look like a story book princess which I never really imagined myself to look like on my wedding day and she even had these awesome comebacks to the harshest critic (my future MIL lol)
like to see my mom and dad crying and looking at me was so surreal and she really just made my whole day. I’m so grateful for her. she made my day so simple, I was literally in and out in less than 2 hours. I can’t wait to work with her again for my bridesmaids
